Your primary love language is the one that received the highest score. You are “bilingual” and have two primary love languages if your point totals are equal for any two love languages. If your second highest scoring love language is close in score but not equal to your primary love language, then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any one love language is 12.
Your partner may express love in certain ways and it is helpful to understand this about him/her. In the same way, it will be helpful for your partner to know your love language and express his/her affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. The payoff to speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates in to better communication, increased understanding, and ultimately, improved romance!
The first step is having your partner take the assessment as well. Once you find out what their primary love language is, you can express your love using their preferred methods.